Nuances of Relationship and its Importance.

Nuances of Relationship and its Importance.

                If getting intimate is about sharing common values, ideals, goals, taste, likes, dislikes then the question of intricacy and complexity of bonding with others will not arise. In as much as the individuality of a person's character demands the needed space and necessary respect to blossom and develope to its desired potential, contradiction will arise. Each individual differs from the other and there is no set of nature or character that can be clubbed into a single entity. For me to be myself is for the other to be himself. This is where balancing the opposites in order for the equals to blend together amidst the differences arises. After all, interactions cannot simply be touch and go. Exception may be entertained in some cases but there are areas where this concept can never find experimentation.

                An orchestra is a collection of differerent sets of musical instrument sounding differently, yet the beauty of its melody is the result of a blend of totally different pieces played together. Different sets of people add taste and flavour to our otherwise monotonous life. Our differences is the fragrance of our lives. We best relishes the exquisiteness of a cuisine when it is not abundantly available. Same sets of routine, schedules, cuisines, faces etc will make living a tasteless duty. It is in variety that life finds flavour. A team needs different sets of individuals with different skills, ideas, techniques, personalities etc. Society needs people with different professions, skills, abilities etc to meet its requirement of running its machinery and to march ahead.

                Challenges abound in boundiful. It will be a tall ask to keep dodging and running away from them. After all life is meant to be lived by accepting the challenges along the path and make the most of what comes our way. In trying to get too choosy and picky we will end up denying ourselves the real ingredients and flavours of life.

                Of course we cannot be expected to accept whatever stands along our path. Not everybody can find accomodation and space. And even those that are accepted, conflicts and contradictions in most cases will take centrestage in the course of our interaction. And it is in trying to balance the differences despite the odds and hanging on to each other through accomodation and adjustment where we'll share relationship. It is more than just trying to get along with people as long as the road is smooth. Relationship is about weathering the rough weather amidst the contradictions and move ahead in acceptance of the other.

                Giving up is not an option nor a choice because relationship is simply about how to maintain the intimacy by balancing the differences. Generally what normally happens is that when things don't work out we go for a replacement to fill the vacuum created by the exit of one. Now this is pure selfishness in so far as the need to relate stems from the desire to have somebody. There are millions and we can choose and reject people at our will. But that is not how it is. If it were that simple there really wouldn't be wars, conflicts etc. You cannot expect yourself to change your workplace almost everyday or change residence daily. That is not how things work and that is where the question of relating with others despite the differences become important.

                As an artist or a poet that tries to find beauty amidst the pains and miseries, life must be lived by trying to focus on the positives because that brings hope and serves to motivate us in living a purposeful life. Our approach and attitude towards life in general determines the nature of our personality and help shape the course of our conduct with those around us. We must understand and define the nature of our relation with each individuals and deal with them accordingly. Relationship is like an art and we must determine and categorise the place each individuals occupies in the set up and draw up a boundary line so that each individual interact accordingly. It is up to the interacting individuals to determine the nature of their intimacy. Afterall we cannot share the same level of professional, intellectual and emotional relationship with everyone we meet on an equal note. We must learn to club all those we come across into different category depending upon the nature of association and the purpose each will serve in our lives. This is specially all the more important when the association is between people of the opposite sexes.

                Now there is nothing wrong to get attracted to each other because that is a natural and a universal phenomenon. Each individual is differently and uniquely presented to us; look, nature, personality, talent, name, fame, wealth etc. Any of these may get us intimately attached. Therefore the nature of us getting attracted to others will vary but we cannot share intimacy with all. We must understand that the need to associate with others stems from the need to fulfill certain needs either mutual or self. Most of our association with others stem from our professional, emotional, intellectual need or to nurse our loneliness. That is why we need to define the nature of our relationship and this is specially true for ladies who treasure the relationship for its merit.