As the beauty of a rainbow stems from its colours so also do people of different taste, personality and nature adds colour to our life. Keep them that way. Let the red be red, blue be blue and green be green. We simply don't need all the available ingredients that we can lay our hands on to make a chicken curry delicious. Rather, it will result in the chicken losing its real flavour. To really savour the chicken, mutton, fish or whatever, spices are just seasonings to make them tastier. So also is with friends. Let them be them and if you really want them to impact your life then deal with them accordingly for what they are in your life. Otherwise trying to treat all equally with the same degree of intimacy will result in you getting hurt and at the same time hurting others too. We cannot take a bite from all the eating joints and rastaurants available when we go out on a dinner. We simply cannot expect the same from all of our friends. Therefore it is very important that we club them according to their personalities, traits, professions etc so that we have a list of options to choose from when the need arises depending upon their availability and our preferences.
This in no way give you permission to treat them like a commodity and grant you the license to be aloof. But you must always remember that you need to be adaptable and instantaneous. Otherwise you will end up being avoided as an eccentric. You must be flexible and shed that rigidity to be welcoming. Club them as to how you want to relate with them but enjoy their company as they come.
If you are not single, take it to another level but still keeping it simple and easy. Relate with them the way you have related with them earlier but keeping in mind as to how you are going to feel if your partner does the same. Don't do something you wouldn't want of your partner.
No double standards
Remember that you are, if not always, mostly conscious of how your partner behaves or reacts with the opposite sexes though you may or may not be fully conscious of it. Therefore don't expect otherwise. Therefore it is very important that you are what you are with them in the presence of your partner or otherwise. This is not a tall ask and it is how you try and relate with your friends even if you are not single in a simple and easy way.
Now just don't worry your head over what your partner is going to think the next time you face such a situation. Simply be yourself to your partner when your friends are around and relate with them as you would normally do. But remember that your every move is being scrutinised. Just be clean and confident and give your partner the due importance and attention he/she deserves. Life is to be lived and relating with others must be a source of happiness.
This in no way give you permission to treat them like a commodity and grant you the license to be aloof. But you must always remember that you need to be adaptable and instantaneous. Otherwise you will end up being avoided as an eccentric. You must be flexible and shed that rigidity to be welcoming. Club them as to how you want to relate with them but enjoy their company as they come.
If you are not single, take it to another level but still keeping it simple and easy. Relate with them the way you have related with them earlier but keeping in mind as to how you are going to feel if your partner does the same. Don't do something you wouldn't want of your partner.
No double standards
Remember that you are, if not always, mostly conscious of how your partner behaves or reacts with the opposite sexes though you may or may not be fully conscious of it. Therefore don't expect otherwise. Therefore it is very important that you are what you are with them in the presence of your partner or otherwise. This is not a tall ask and it is how you try and relate with your friends even if you are not single in a simple and easy way.
Now just don't worry your head over what your partner is going to think the next time you face such a situation. Simply be yourself to your partner when your friends are around and relate with them as you would normally do. But remember that your every move is being scrutinised. Just be clean and confident and give your partner the due importance and attention he/she deserves. Life is to be lived and relating with others must be a source of happiness.
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